The Big Question: To Find Out or Not?
One of the most exciting decisions during pregnancy is whether to find out your baby’s sex. While some parents love the idea of a surprise at birth, others prefer the practical and emotional benefits of knowing in advance. Ultimately, the choice is deeply personal, and both options have their own advantages.
The Benefits of Finding Out
1. Preparation Made Easier
Knowing your baby’s sex allows you to plan with more specificity. From choosing clothes and nursery themes to selecting a name, having this information can make decisions less overwhelming.2. Bonding with Your Baby
For many parents, knowing their baby’s sex strengthens the emotional connection during pregnancy. Referring to your baby as "he" or "she" (or even using the chosen name) can make the experience feel more real.3. Including Older Siblings
If you have older children, revealing the baby’s sex can help them feel more involved and excited about the new addition.4. Gender Reveal Celebrations
Finding out the sex early offers the opportunity to host a gender reveal party, which can be a fun way to share the news with loved ones.
The Joy of Waiting Until Birth
1. The Ultimate Surprise
Waiting to find out your baby’s sex until birth adds an element of mystery and anticipation, making the big moment even more special.2. Reduced Gender Stereotyping
By delaying the reveal, you may avoid being influenced by traditional gender expectations when shopping for baby gear or decorating the nursery.3. Equal Excitement for Either Outcome
Some parents worry they may feel disappointed if they find out the sex early and it doesn’t match their initial hopes. Waiting until birth can reduce this, as the joy of meeting your baby often overshadows any preconceived expectations.Factors to Consider
Medical Reasons
In some cases, knowing the baby’s sex may be medically relevant, particularly if there’s a family history of sex-linked genetic conditions. Your healthcare provider can help guide this decision if needed.Your Personality
Are you a planner who thrives on details? Or do you love surprises? Reflecting on your personality can help you decide which approach feels right.Your Partner’s Preference
It’s important to have an open conversation with your partner about their feelings. Finding a compromise ensures both of you feel good about the decision.Can You Trust the Accuracy?
The accuracy of sex prediction depends on the method used:- Ultrasound (18-20 weeks): Typically reliable but can sometimes be inconclusive if the baby is in a tricky position.
- Non-Invasive Prenatal Testing (NIPT): This blood test is highly accurate and can reveal the baby’s sex as early as 10 weeks.
- Amniocentesis or CVS: These diagnostic tests can determine the sex but are generally reserved for medical reasons.
Whether or not to find out your baby’s sex is a deeply personal decision with no right or wrong answer. It’s about what feels best for you and your family. Whether you opt for the practicality of early knowledge or the thrill of a delivery room surprise, cherish the journey as you prepare to meet your little one.

Content Reviewed by Dr V.
Learn MoreDr. Vaheh Shirvanian, a family medicine physician and father. With over 17 years of experience, he specializes in inpatient acute hospital care, outpatient family medicine, urgent care, emergency medicine, and hospice care. Dr. V is passionate about guiding new parents through the challenges and joys of parenthood, offering compassionate and expert support at every step.